You Gotta Know When to Hold Em. Know When to Fold Em. So, let me tell you about my recent cray cray moment. Ok, it was kind of "behind the scenes" from the actual event because I was trying desperately not to stoop to their level and stock the fire more. However, I really wanted to go all Joan Crawford in Mommy Dearest cray! But, I kept my composure and knew when to fold 'em.
Thoughts of Insanity

You Gotta Know When to Hold ‘Em

It’s been a little while since I posted so let me give you a blah blah blah excuse why.

I’ve been too busy.

Oh, wait, not too busy to be with y’all. But too busy to actually put my thoughts down and publish a post. Ya see, my Virtual business has been keeping my busy outside of my normal 9-5 job. Seriously, not a good enough excuse not to hang with y’all.

So, let me tell you about my recent cray cray moment. Ok, it was kind of “behind the scenes” from the actual event because I was trying desperately not to stoop to their level and stock the fire more. However, I really wanted to go all Joan Crawford in Mommy Dearest cray! But, I kept my composure and knew when to fold ’em.

As Bloggers, we love our Social Media! Even more, we love our Facebook Groups where we can network with awesome gals and boost our blogs! But sometimes things get a bit “NO MORE WIRE HANGERSish” and ya gotta walk away.

Facebook Groups

Lawd, gals, we know there are a gazillion of them, right? I’ve been in many over the years and leave for different reasons.

  • When the bishes get a bit too cray for me, I gotta get walking.
  • No collaboration.
  • Too many cliques.
  • Bullies and condescending folks.
  • Politics

Ya know, if I want cray, I can look at my personal profile page! I go to Facebook groups at times just to escape the daily cray on my feed. You now the kind, especially nowadays with all the election bullshit and poop flinging.

But this day in particular, in one of my Top 5 Blogger Sharing Facebook Groups, I couldn’t bite my tongue. Ya see, I don’t think politics belong in a Blogger Sharing group unless it’s in a daily blog post share and I can skin right by it.

But this time, the post was RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF MY EYES! Because the poster, who I have since then spoken privately with, was so happy at her post, I had to read it.

Mistake #1

After reading the article and the comments attached to it, I grew enraged. I honestly don’t give a rats ass who you voted for. What I do care about is when you start calling people derogatory names and belittling because of it.

Mistake #2

I replied to the poster on the Facebook Group.

I honestly didn’t think the shit storm that ensued, would have. However, if you follow any kind of politics, you know there are the “left-wingers”, the “right-wingers”, and the “tweeners”. I happy to be a “tweener” most of the time. However, since I voted “right”, I am deplorable. I am ignorant. I am racist. An egotist. And so much more.

Really, I didn’t know it was possible to be so many derogatory things when in actuality, I’m a loving, caring, and compassionate person.

What Then Followed

Was a bunch of “prove its” and more name calling. Ya know, I’m a wife to a USAF Veteran. I have some connections. Do any of you know what kind of connections? No, I’m sure you don’t. Well, when you talk about corrupt and murder in regards to politics, the Government and Military know a lot about it.

Don’t ask me to prove my facts because what I know is CONFIDENTIAL and I cannot produce what you want or I will be sent to Guantanamo Bay

You Gotta Know When to Fold ‘Em

You Gotta Know When to Hold Em. Know When to Fold Em. Know When To Walk Away.

I’m not calling anyone in particular “stupid”, but ya just can’t argue with it. I mean, you can’t debate with someone who is so blind to any other way than their own. It’s really sad.

However, I’m not one to walk away from a fight, especially when I am passionate about the subject. Being it wasn’t my group, I had to respect the Administrator(s), Moderators, and other Members. I chose to chat privately with those who disagreed with me in order to keep the bullshit out of the group.

Know When to Walk Away

When you know that there isn’t a true solution to the situation at hand and you feel it detrimental to your well-being or others, it’s alright to walk away.

That is what I did. I deleted my comments and left the group.

Was that a coward move? I think not. I believe I took the higher road. I don’t need that kind of bullshit attitude in a “Support” group. If I was in a political group, sure. Let’s throw it down! But out of respect to the other members, I chose to no longer engage.

I’m not angry with the group or Administrators. Not at all. It really is a good group. However, debates of this nature, in my opinion, should not be there. Too many people can get involved, take sides, and the bullying and shit slinging begins. Not in this type of group.

I May Go Back

I’m going to let things die down for a bit and I may go back. I’ve been contacted by a few in the group since I left and I appreciate them doing so.

The message I’m sending is this:

TIME AND PLACE

There is a time and place for everything. When you overstep the time or place, that is disrespectful. When you don’t think about others opinions, that is plain egocentric.

Lastly, do not condone those for actions you do not like and in return do those same actions. This is called a Hypocrite.

Keep your “Niche” driven Facebook Groups exactly that. You know Politics and Religion don’t mix in all groups. Be courteous of others and their feelings.

Bullying and mocking someone for their beliefs is not cool in my book. I don’t condone it. I won’t stand for it.

Over To You

I know most of you are bloggers that have encountered disputes in groups. What are some examples you can share and how did you handle it?

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6 thoughts on “You Gotta Know When to Hold ‘Em”

  1. I am currently in a group now that makes me feel unwanted (for lack of a better word) because I did not buy in to a paid thing which she made 40% off plus after selling 5 she got it free. The enrages me because a tribe is supposed to support each other and I have not seen any from her because in her words ‘she is too busy’ PLUS she does not feel it to comment on posts she doesn’t relate to. OMFG that pissed me off because I have commented on her posts which I do not find interesting.
    but to each his own. I think I need to find a new tribe but the other groupies are awesome

    1. Hey Renee,
      That is just plain wrong on so many levels. I remember you talking about that group before. Some of these group admins, in my opinion, power trip a bit. They can be clicky too. But if you’re not getting the warm fuzzy, I’d high-tail it outta there. You don’t need the negativity in your life and there are many other groups out there.

      B

  2. I am in three groups and try not to keep anymore than 8 at a time and most is for share threads to be honest. I prefer smaller groups where you can see who people are and get a good collaboration going. I am not a fan of huge huge huge groups. Sometimes it can be too much! If I see to much foolishness I’m out. I am trying to stack my money I don’t have time for anything else!

    1. Hey Kita,
      I like the small groups too. They feel more homey, personable to me. I’ve been in a few that feel pretty cut-throat. However, there are others that I absolutely LOVE and learn a lot from. I’m in several different niche like groups and get something from all of them. However, when it comes to drama, that shat gotta go and I’m outty! I hear ya on the money gal!

      B

    1. Hi Ved,
      Glad to see you again! haha I hope you haven’t experienced this kind of thing in groups. I was hoping it was more of a “girl” thing. 🙂 It’s always great to see you here. Thanks again!

      B

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